Sorry bring a little snide. Just got an email from Owen's soccer coach announcing an end of the season celebration at Dairy Queen! Yay! I know I have mentioned (in person and email) that Owen is allergic to dairy (maybe he doesn't know this means ice cream too?) but this apparently has been forgotten. My first reply email was "Hey! We won't be able to make it to Dairy Queen. Owen is allergic to milk (and eggs and sunflower seeds). But feel free to go on with the festivities without us. I won't mention it to Owen so he will be none the wiser." My husband felt this was putting the coach in an awkward spot as then he would be watching what he says at practice and would feel bad if he slipped up. Well, okay sometimes I don't like wearing others shoes as I don't always think they even try to wear mine so my reply was "So what."
In my heat of the moment angry phase, I will say "Why do I have to spare his feelings?" Or the feelings of the Mom-who-brings-snacks-my-son-can't-have-and-then-acts-the-martyr as she "discreetly" says to her friend "Well, goldfish are what every Mom brings". All I said is "Thank you for letting me read the label. No, he can't have those." At this point I have to say, your feelings about this situation are YOUR feelings. I'm sorry he has food allergies and it is inconvenient to you in some way. Though I have to wonder WHAT exactly is the inconvenience. That he has them? That he can't have what you proposed? I'm sorry. I HAVE NOT asked you to change anything. ALL I have said is he can't have those or he can't come to that. It is not a judgement on you IT IS A FACT OF OUR LIVES. That is it. It is what we do everyday. Avoid. Everyday. Despite soccer games or end of the season celebrations. Sorry I made you feel something.
So my real email read "Owen is allergic to dairy (and eggs and sunflower seeds). So we won't be at the Dairy Queen festivities. You've been a great coach this season. Thanks for keeping the little guys motivated."
*Breathe out* I had forgotten how therapeutic my blog is for me. Just had to get that little vent out.